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First impressions really do count! What 5 things do women look at, when they first meet a man?

Spotted the woman of your dreams on the train? Think she won’t notice your dirty trainers and 5 o’clock shadow? Well you are wrong! Women are an observant bunch and they don’t miss a thing. We spoke to male grooming expert, Stephen Handisides to get the low down. Asking, ‘what do women look at, when they meet a man for the first time?’

Men in the UK are some of the most stylish in the world. Male grooming is growing in popularity, with sales of men’s grooming product estimated to tip the £608million mark, by 2017*. But with all these lotions and potions, are we really doing it right? Together with the team at MyFaceMyBody we recently conducted a survey from a cross-section of women, from four different continents on what aesthetically they look for in a man. The results give a valuable insight into what many men can improve on.

The overwhelming response from women, is that on meeting a man for first time, they instantly look at the aesthetics. So smile, hands, hair, eyes and lastly shoes. Basically a man’s overall appearance and presentation, so first impressions really do count!

So for men, male grooming, is important, but spending hours in the bathroom isn’t essential. Maintain the basics and it’ll only take you a few minutes each day to keep you looking sharp.

The fundamentals are easy, a good haircut, crisp shave, or neatly trimmed beard, style in the wardrobe department and lastly clean hands and short nails. No dirty fingernails please (this was a major and surprising complaint from the survey results).

Remember, your barber is your friend. Visit a good barber’s regularly they’ll give you a great haircut that suits the shape of your face, a good shave and remove any of those mono-brow issues.

Don’t be afraid of men’s grooming products, have fun and try out different brands. My personal favourites are Ultraceuticals, Dirt for Men and Aspect Dr, but experiment and find what you like. Moisturise, use deodorant, wax / pomade and a find a great aftershave that isn’t too overpowering. A classic fragrance won’t date and won’t be too strong. You want them to remember your scent, not be knocked out by it.

A great smile is important, we have an excellent dental system in the UK, so there is no excuse for chipped, stained teeth. Visit your dentist every six months and they’ll keep your pearly whites looking bright.

You don’t necessarily have to wear designer clothes to impress. It is all about how you present yourself. You can’t go past a sharp suit for style factor, but if the occasion doesn’t allow it, then a crisp shirt, casual chino’s or jeans and good quality pair of leather shoes can look really stylish. Dress for the occasion, black tie formal, wear a sophisticated tuxedo, casual dinner date, smart shirt and dress jeans. Just remember, your look doesn’t have to be expensive. There are some great men’s high-street brands around where you can emulate the high end, designer looks for a fraction of the cost. Check out men’s fashion and grooming blogs and Instagram for men’s style tips and inspiration.

Lastly and most importantly, have confidence, look her in the eye and smile. Start a conversation, pay her a compliment or open a door, who knows where it will lead.

For more male grooming tips and inspiration, check out Stephens Instagram @shandisides Twitter @shandisides and his website and blog on www.stephenhandisides.com 

Picture credits PerfectlyAttired.co.uk

*Statistics according to © Statista 2016

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Stephen Handisides is an international TV presenter, model, journalist and an all-round expert on Aesthetic Beauty and Male Grooming. Stephen is a regular expert commentator on ITV’s This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Five, Sky News, Channel 10 Australia and BBC radio. Stephen also hosts and produces Sky TV’s MyFaceMyBody and is the brains behind the Global Aesthetic Awards, held in London, LA and Sydney in November. Stephen currently splits his time between London and LA.

For more male grooming tips and inspiration, check out Stephens Instagram @shandisides Twitter @shandisides and his website and blog on www.stephenhandisides.com 

 

 

Top 5 Things Women Look At When They First Meet You

First impressions really do count!  What 5 things do women look at, when they first meet a man?

Spotted the woman of your dreams on the train? Think she won’t notice your dirty trainers and 5 o’clock shadow? Well you are wrong! Women are an observant bunch and they don’t miss a thing. We spoke to male grooming expert, Stephen Handisides to get the low down. Asking, ‘what do women look at, when they meet a man for the first time?’

Men in the UK are some of the most stylish in the world. Male grooming is growing in popularity, with sales of men’s grooming product estimated to tip the £608million mark, by 2017*. But with all these lotions and potions, are we really doing it right? Together with the team at MyFaceMyBody we recently conducted a survey from a cross-section of women, from four different continents on what aesthetically they look for in a man. The results give a valuable insight into what many men can improve on.

The overwhelming response from women, is that on meeting a man for first time, they instantly look at the aesthetics. So smile, hands, hair, eyes and lastly shoes. Basically a man’s overall appearance and presentation, so first impressions really do count!

So for men, male grooming, is important, but spending hours in the bathroom isn’t essential. Maintain the basics and it’ll only take you a few minutes each day to keep you looking sharp.

The fundamentals are easy, a good haircut, crisp shave, or neatly trimmed beard, style in the wardrobe department and lastly clean hands and short nails. No dirty fingernails please (this was a major and surprising complaint from the survey results).

Remember, your barber is your friend. Visit a good barber’s regularly they’ll give you a great haircut that suits the shape of your face, a good shave and remove any of those mono-brow issues.

Don’t be afraid of men’s grooming products, have fun and try out different brands. My personal favourites are Ultraceuticals, Dirt for Men and Aspect Dr, but experiment and find what you like. Moisturise, use deodorant, wax / pomade and a find a great aftershave that isn’t too overpowering. A classic fragrance won’t date and won’t be too strong. You want them to remember your scent, not be knocked out by it.

A great smile is important, we have an excellent dental system in the UK, so there is no excuse for chipped, stained teeth. Visit your dentist every six months and they’ll keep your pearly whites looking bright.

You don’t necessarily have to wear designer clothes to impress. It is all about how you present yourself. You can’t go past a sharp suit for style factor, but if the occasion doesn’t allow it, then a crisp shirt, casual chino’s or jeans and good quality pair of leather shoes can look really stylish. Dress for the occasion, black tie formal, wear a sophisticated tuxedo, casual dinner date, smart shirt and dress jeans. Just remember, your look doesn’t have to be expensive. There are some great men’s high-street brands around where you can emulate the high end, designer looks for a fraction of the cost. Check out men’s fashion and grooming blogs and Instagram for men’s style tips and inspiration.

Lastly and most importantly, have confidence, look her in the eye and smile. Start a conversation, pay her a compliment or open a door, who knows where it will lead.

For more male grooming tips and inspiration, check out Stephens Instagram @shandisides Twitter @shandisides and his website and blog on www.stephenhandisides.com

Picture credits PerfectlyAttired.co.uk

*Statistics according to © Statista 2016

Stephen Handisides is an international TV presenter, model, journalist and an all-round expert on Aesthetic Beauty and Male Grooming. Stephen is a regular expert commentator on ITV’s This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Five, Sky News, Channel 10 Australia and BBC radio. Stephen also hosts and produces Sky TV’s MyFaceMyBody and is the brains behind the Global Aesthetic Awards, held in London, LA and Sydney in November. Stephen currently splits his time between London and LA.

For more male grooming tips and inspiration, check out Stephens Instagram @shandisides Twitter @shandisides and his website and blog on www.stephenhandisides.com

The Modern Man’s Guide to Dating

modern man's guide to dating

Aesthetics and Male Grooming expert Stephen Handisides is a regular on TV screens across the UK and USA appearing on ITV, This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Sky TV and BBC radio. As we head into the start of 2017, in this issue, we asked Stephen, for the modern man’s guide to dating.

Over my years in the industry I have been lucky enough to meet beautiful, intellectually stimulating and witty women from all around the world. As a result, I am often asked in interviews for a man’s perspective on dating and what it is that women want? So, if this is your year to meet the lady of your dreams, then here are my top tips, to help you navigate the dating minefield.

Pay attention and listen. When meeting a woman for the first time, look her in the eye, smile, ask questions and really listen. When other people join the conversation, introduce her by name, it shows you’ve been paying attention. She may not be your future partner, but every person you meet has something interesting to say.

Make an effort. On a date, I can almost guarantee that she will have put thought into looking nice, so you should to! Make an effort with your appearance, dress well, have a shave and brush your teeth. If you are picking her up, clean out your car. Don’t smoke and don’t drink too much.

Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be an ex-military special forces hero if you left Army cadets when you were 15! Be yourself and be proud of who you are. If she doesn’t like who you are, then she isn’t worth it.

Games are for children, not gentlemen. Don’t play games in a relationship, if you want to call, call. If you don’t think she is right for you, in the politest way, let her down gently. Don’t date multiple woman at the same time and think you’ll meet ‘The One’. Invest in each relationship. If it’s not right, don’t just settle, be honest and move on.

Don’t talk about your Ex. Especially not on a first date. Don’t talk negatively about your ex-girlfriends. It will just make you look bad.

Put down the phone. Turn your phone off, or at least put it on silent and in your pocket when on a date. It can all wait, give her the attention she deserves. Also, note to self, taking selfies and foodporn Instagram pictures on a date, just isn’t cool.

Respect her and be a gentleman. Treat a lady with respect. Don’t be late. Offer to pay on the first date. Walk her to her car, open the car door and make sure she gets home safe. Be a gentleman.

She’s just not that into you. If she doesn’t text back, or answer your calls, even if you thought the date went really well, she is just not that into you. Don’t dwell on it, or analyse what you did wrong. Delete her number and move on.

Communicate. At the beginning of a relationship, or after 10 years of marriage. Communication is the key. Always be honest and talk things through. Arguments aren’t always bad; they can be a really good way to sort out differences, as long as you can talk it through and resolve it. Compromise and don’t be stubborn, relationships are give and take. And as the age old saying goes ‘Never go to bed on an argument’.

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Don’t take her for granted. Take notice, pay her a compliment, take her somewhere special. Remember her birthday and anniversaries. You don’t have to spend a fortune on extravagant gifts, but the small thoughtful gestures are worth their weight in gold. 

If she is a keeper. ‘The One’ is hard to find and some of us spend a lifetime looking! If you feel that you have met that special someone, put in the hard yards. Treat her like a princess and make her feel special. A real connection with someone, is hard to find and really special, hold onto it.

Most importantly, have fun! Dating is fun, exciting and a great way to meet new people. Get out there, go on lots of dates and have fun.

Stephen Handisides is an international TV presenter, model, journalist and an all-round expert on Aesthetic Beauty and Male Grooming. Stephen is currently featuring as a guest grooming presenter on Channel 10 Cruise Mode and is regular expert commentator in the UK on ITV’s This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Five, Sky News, and BBC radio. Stephen also hosts and produces Sky TV’s MyFaceMyBody and is the brains behind the Global Aesthetic Awards, held in London, LA and Sydney.

 

For more male grooming tips and inspiration, check out Stephens Instagram @shandisides Twitter @shandisides and his website and blog on www.stephenhandisides.com 

Picture credits PerfectlyAttired.co.uk

Top Dating Tips 2

Here’s my second video

Aesthetics and Male Grooming expert Stephen Handisides is a regular on TV screens across the UK and USA appearing on ITV, This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Sky TV and BBC radio. As we head into the start of 2017, in this issue, we asked Stephen, for the modern man’s guide to dating.

Over my years in the industry I have been lucky enough to meet beautiful, intellectually stimulating and witty women from all around the world. As a result, I am often asked in interviews for a man’s perspective on dating and what it is that women want? So, if this is your year to meet the lady of your dreams, then here are my top tips, to help you navigate the dating minefield.

Pay attention and listen. When meeting a woman for the first time, look her in the eye, smile, ask questions and really listen. When other people join the conversation, introduce her by name, it shows you’ve been paying attention. She may not be your future partner, but every person you meet has something interesting to say.

Make an effort. On a date, I can almost guarantee that she will have put thought into looking nice, so you should to! Make an effort with your appearance, dress well, have a shave and brush your teeth. If you are picking her up, clean out your car. Don’t smoke and don’t drink too much.

Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be an ex-military special forces hero if you left Army cadets when you were 15! Be yourself and be proud of who you are. If she doesn’t like who you are, then she isn’t worth it.

Games are for children, not gentlemen. Don’t play games in a relationship, if you want to call, call. If you don’t think she is right for you, in the politest way, let her down gently. Don’t date multiple woman at the same time and think you’ll meet ‘The One’. Invest in each relationship. If it’s not right, don’t just settle, be honest and move on.

Don’t talk about your Ex. Especially not on a first date. Don’t talk negatively about your ex-girlfriends. It will just make you look bad.

Put down the phone. Turn your phone off, or at least put it on silent and in your pocket when on a date. It can all wait, give her the attention she deserves. Also, note to self, taking selfies and foodporn Instagram pictures on a date, just isn’t cool.

Respect her and be a gentleman. Treat a lady with respect. Don’t be late. Offer to pay on the first date. Walk her to her car, open the car door and make sure she gets home safe. Be a gentleman.

She’s just not that into you. If she doesn’t text back, or answer your calls, even if you thought the date went really well, she is just not that into you. Don’t dwell on it, or analyse what you did wrong. Delete her number and move on.

Communicate. At the beginning of a relationship, or after 10 years of marriage. Communication is the key. Always be honest and talk things through. Arguments aren’t always bad; they can be a really good way to sort out differences, as long as you can talk it through and resolve it. Compromise and don’t be stubborn, relationships are give and take. And as the age old saying goes ‘Never go to bed on an argument’.

Don’t take her for granted. Take notice, pay her a compliment, take her somewhere special. Remember her birthday and anniversaries. You don’t have to spend a fortune on extravagant gifts, but the small thoughtful gestures are worth their weight in gold.

If she is a keeper. ‘The One’ is hard to find and some of us spend a lifetime looking! If you feel that you have met that special someone, put in the hard yards. Treat her like a princess and make her feel special. A real connection with someone, is hard to find and really special, hold onto it.

Most importantly, have fun! Dating is fun, exciting and a great way to meet new people. Get out there, go on lots of dates and have fun.

Stephen Handisides is an international TV presenter, model, journalist and an all-round expert on Aesthetic Beauty and Male Grooming. Stephen is currently featuring as a guest grooming presenter on Channel 10 Cruise Mode and is regular expert commentator in the UK on ITV’s This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Five, Sky News, and BBC radio. Stephen also hosts and produces Sky TV’s MyFaceMyBody and is the brains behind the Global Aesthetic Awards, held in London, LA and Sydney.

Other Blogs:

Business
Male Grooming
Wellness
Dating
Travel
Etiquette

For more information, check out Stephen Handisides on the web:  
Website www.stephenhandisides.com   
Instagram @shandisides
Twitter @shandisides
My Face My Body’s Facebook @myfacemybody
Modern Male Mindset Facebook @modernmalemindset
International contacts:
UK Contact – Gina Fink – Savage Public Relations gina@savagepr.com.au
US Contact – Juliette H – It Girl Public Relations Julietteh@itgirlpublicrelations.com (+11) 310-577-1122

Picture credits PerfectlyAttired.co.uk

Top Dating Tips

Aesthetics and Male Grooming expert Stephen Handisides is a regular on TV screens across the UK and USA appearing on ITV, This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Sky TV and BBC radio. As we head into the start of 2017, in this issue, we asked Stephen, for the modern man’s guide to dating.

Over my years in the industry I have been lucky enough to meet beautiful, intellectually stimulating and witty women from all around the world. As a result, I am often asked in interviews for a man’s perspective on dating and what it is that women want? So, if this is your year to meet the lady of your dreams, then here are my top tips, to help you navigate the dating minefield.

Pay attention and listen. When meeting a woman for the first time, look her in the eye, smile, ask questions and really listen. When other people join the conversation, introduce her by name, it shows you’ve been paying attention. She may not be your future partner, but every person you meet has something interesting to say.

Make an effort. On a date, I can almost guarantee that she will have put thought into looking nice, so you should to! Make an effort with your appearance, dress well, have a shave and brush your teeth. If you are picking her up, clean out your car. Don’t smoke and don’t drink too much.

Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be an ex-military special forces hero if you left Army cadets when you were 15! Be yourself and be proud of who you are. If she doesn’t like who you are, then she isn’t worth it.

Games are for children, not gentlemen. Don’t play games in a relationship, if you want to call, call. If you don’t think she is right for you, in the politest way, let her down gently. Don’t date multiple woman at the same time and think you’ll meet ‘The One’. Invest in each relationship. If it’s not right, don’t just settle, be honest and move on.

Don’t talk about your Ex. Especially not on a first date. Don’t talk negatively about your ex-girlfriends. It will just make you look bad.

Put down the phone. Turn your phone off, or at least put it on silent and in your pocket when on a date. It can all wait, give her the attention she deserves. Also, note to self, taking selfies and foodporn Instagram pictures on a date, just isn’t cool.

Respect her and be a gentleman. Treat a lady with respect. Don’t be late. Offer to pay on the first date. Walk her to her car, open the car door and make sure she gets home safe. Be a gentleman.

She’s just not that into you. If she doesn’t text back, or answer your calls, even if you thought the date went really well, she is just not that into you. Don’t dwell on it, or analyse what you did wrong. Delete her number and move on.

Communicate. At the beginning of a relationship, or after 10 years of marriage. Communication is the key. Always be honest and talk things through. Arguments aren’t always bad; they can be a really good way to sort out differences, as long as you can talk it through and resolve it. Compromise and don’t be stubborn, relationships are give and take. And as the age old saying goes ‘Never go to bed on an argument’.

Don’t take her for granted. Take notice, pay her a compliment, take her somewhere special. Remember her birthday and anniversaries. You don’t have to spend a fortune on extravagant gifts, but the small thoughtful gestures are worth their weight in gold.

If she is a keeper. ‘The One’ is hard to find and some of us spend a lifetime looking! If you feel that you have met that special someone, put in the hard yards. Treat her like a princess and make her feel special. A real connection with someone, is hard to find and really special, hold onto it.

Most importantly, have fun! Dating is fun, exciting and a great way to meet new people. Get out there, go on lots of dates and have fun.

Stephen Handisides is an international TV presenter, model, journalist and an all-round expert on Aesthetic Beauty and Male Grooming. Stephen is currently featuring as a guest grooming presenter on Channel 10 Cruise Mode and is regular expert commentator in the UK on ITV’s This Morning, GMTV, Lorraine, OK!TV, Five, Sky News, and BBC radio. Stephen also hosts and produces Sky TV’s MyFaceMyBody and is the brains behind the Global Aesthetic Awards, held in London, LA and Sydney.

Other Blogs:

Business
Male Grooming
Wellness
Dating
Travel
Etiquette

For more information, check out Stephen Handisides on the web:  
Website www.stephenhandisides.com   
Instagram @shandisides
Twitter @shandisides
My Face My Body’s Facebook @myfacemybody
Modern Male Mindset Facebook @modernmalemindset
International contacts:
UK Contact – Gina Fink – Savage Public Relations gina@savagepr.com.au
US Contact – Juliette H – It Girl Public Relations Julietteh@itgirlpublicrelations.com (+11) 310-577-1122

Picture credits PerfectlyAttired.co.uk

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